Communication: A Letter Pinned by Bianca Modo

It has come to my attention how much a lack of communication with another person can bother me. In my mind, it seems so easy to be present and take the time to put away social media, other friends, and anything else distracting to build a true connection with another. Where the connection is meant to be intimate or friendly, it’s possible to pull away from the world and get to know a person in the time you have with them. If you are constantly lost in your phone or internet, where is the time for that person? Saying that you are so busy is bs. You don’t know how to manage your time or where to place your priorities. You can’t expect someone to give you their all when you are constantly distracted by anything and everything that isn’t them. I think people tend to get too comfortable…they think they are safe from being removed from an individual’s life. They think they’re “in there.” I’m the type of individual to give you an equal chance without stringing along the last mistakes from a previous relationship. I never make someone pay for a former love’s mistakes. I am open and honest with my expectations and I give you the chance to impress me, because I definitely want to impress you with who I am genuinely. If you can’t bring anything other than sexual conquests and a few dates to the relationship, what’s the point? I don’t want someone around who just wants to take up my space and energy.

There are also those who have never had the type of love their heart truly desires. But they’ve also never given the type of love and attention that would attract the type of love their soul needs. It’s the idea of insanity (doing the same thing, but expecting different results) that keeps them from manifesting that love. There’s true love out there, but it requires a unique amount of attention to details and nurturing that provides the love a space to grow and be free. This type of love cannot be played with or cast away to the side and forgotten. You must water it and give it sunshine for it to thrive. As you nurture that love, it will blossom and become it’s own unique and authentic self.

 

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I’m a pure and spiritual being…my soul needs to fed. I yearn to be understood. Take the time to be present and get to know the different layers of my soul. When your attention is everywhere but with me, I become annoyed and turned off. Balance is key to building the most peaceful life. Knowing when to work and when to love is crucial to your being. I am just as busy as any other person, but I always make time for those who are presently in front of me. I can easily become distant and start putting up walls when I don’t “feel” your energy. If you aren’t willing to communicate and solve current issues, I become even more distant. Once I know something is bothering you, I am committed to solving that issue so we can move forward and continue strengthening our relationship. By leaving issues unresolved, tension starts to build and at some point, one person tends to quit and fade. At this phase in my life, however, I’m not interested in fading… I will just disappear. I know that I don’t need anything in my life that causes confusion, pain, or strife, especially in the early stages of building a connection. First impressions are very important, and I believe that if a person doesn’t bother to put a mask on who they are (good thing) this is truly who they will be and early decisions must be made to avoid wasting any more time. Most people tend to realize the lesson and decide to stay around to see if they can change the person or if the compatibility will increase. Sometimes, you just aren’t compatible and that’s okay. I’d rather learn it now than to find out years later that I have been living a lie. Communication is key to my sanity. It’s key to every aspect of my life from personal and family to work relationships. If you are not trying to communicate with me, you are not trying to build a connection with me.

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